Have you ever tried living someone else’s life? Did you attempt to adopt other people’s looks, mannerisms or ways of speaking, just to be more like them? Did you ever feel emotionally burnt out from trying so hard to please and impress others only to be rejected by them?
As a coach I get to talk to many people that are in emotional and/or physical pain because they have neglected being themselves for way too long. In our endeavours to adapt to life’s circumstances, to please others or to be “good enough” and feel accepted in our competitive world, we so often forget how to bring forward our unique contribution, to sing our unique song in the choir of life.
We all have a different song to sing, with a unique message to convey, an emotion to evoke, a story to tell or a stand to take. While all our songs vary in melody, rhythm, key, lyrics, phrasing, volume or beat, they are equally important in the songbook of humanity.
What is your song of life all about? Who’s your audience? Who’s playing in your band or joining you on stage? What emotions and messages are you intending to convey?
I believe we are given life as an opportunity and invitation to live it from our unique vantage point and share our particular messages and gifts with the world – whatever shape, form, colour or tune they may come in.
It takes courage to be who we are – without compromise, fully, whole-heartedly, uniquely, beautifully. But is there really any other way that makes sense in the larger scheme of things? I don’t think so.
In his book ‘A Daily Dose of Sanity’ Alan Cohen writes: “It is said ‘A friend is someone who remembers your song when you have forgotten it and reminds you to sing it.’ No one can perform your song as well as you can, so sing it loud and clear.”
I hope that we all have friends that remind us of our authenticity, our truth and our unique essence, and encourage us to be ourselves, to sing our song and to let our true colours be seen. Do you know the song “True Colours” by Billy Steinberg and Tom Kelly? I love this song, in particular the chorus, which speaks so beautifully to the topic at hand. It goes like this:
And I’ll see your true colours shining through
I see your true colours and that’s why I love you
So don’t be afraid to let them show, your true colours
True colours are beautiful like a rainbow
I firmly believe that, if we were ready to let our true colours be seen and our unique songs be heard, our world would be in a much better place: more freedom, more peace, more joy. Are you willing to make a difference? Then show your true colours and sing your song – the world is ready for you!